Deactivating the facebooks - HERE WE GO AGAIN

Well, well, well...Here we are in 2018 and I have just deactivated the facebook's for the EXACT SAME REASONS that I have stated below. Like, I'm shocked I ever wrote this because I am literally back in the SAME PLACE. The social media shit is fucked up and since this original post , I joined Instagram, which I also deleted today. I became incredibly cognizant of the way my mood changed when I logged on, how suddenly my circumstances and accomplishments weren't important or exciting and didn't mean as much as this person's or that person's, and dear god, MY DISDAIN for all of it, for all the people, for people I've loved and called friends. People are entitled to be into what they're into and celebrate their lives and selves any way they want - Honestly, most of it I love, but sometimes things stab and sting and trigger and it's so unnecessary. I don't need to feel it and I don't want to project it. The other thing we noticed that is GROSS, is that we began thinking in terms of what to post or how to post and how it would look and CONTENT - thinking this way is not normal unless you run a business and way too influenced by a fickle audience, too rooted in other people. SO.

Dan and I have a lot of changes coming and are making exciting plans for the future. We need focus and positivity, and blocking out those distractions and comparisons seems like a real healthy step.





I did it.  I took down my fb page that has taken up an exceptional and unreasonable amount of my time since I joined in 2009.  Don't get me wrong.  Dan and I reconnected because of fb. I am in touch with wonderful people that I otherwise would not be in touch with.  I truly love all of the people I know.  I just don't like many of them, or their politics or their dumb posts.  Then I realized I was one of those people, too.

I began to think about how much closer I would be to my old friends if we couldn't just check in with each other on fb.  Would I know about the shows, the kids, the pets, the losses ( which you rarely hear about because everyone wants everyone to think their life is rockin' all the time ), the marriages?  There's no telling.  I do believe that fb has changed the way we think of others...

A surprising development was the number of people who assumed Dan and I were going through something bad. The opposite, actually. What we're going through is a renewed connection with each other and not our phones, tablets, laptops, etc.
I get a little bored here and there and wish I could scroll mindlessly through a bunch of shit that just takes up room in my head and makes me doubt the future of humanity. I could compare my insides to other peoples outsides and then feel like a loser because we haven't taken a vacation this year, but I'm done. fb is not the truth, the whole story, or anything even important.
                                             
 If we're friends, you probably have my number and e-mail. If you want those things, message me on this blog.

We're not supposed to carry folks with us forever, even if we have shared amazing things, and I'm afraid fb is too much clutter in an already wonky world.



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